Parenting

Tuesday, May 24, 2005

Motivation... The Key to Your Child's Educational Success




By: GranMamma


For the first year or two of life outside the womb, our brains are in
the most impressionable state they will ever be in. A baby's brain is
immediately shaped by interacting with their environment. As a parent,
one can have a large influence on their newborns first encounters with
learning.

The mind learns optimally when appropriately challenged in an
environment that encourages taking risks. However, under perceived
threat, the mind does not perform as well. This makes it harder to
learn when you are nervous, stressed, or not feeling well.

Before a child learns to talk, they experience emotions.
Emotions are another source for improving memory. People are better at
recalling stories that held strong feelings. The emotional context
plays an important role in the learning process. People with excellent
memories have multiple interests. We naturally remember what we are
interested in. As a parent, it is crucial to teach your child the value
of learning.

Motivation is the key to learning. You can help your child to
discover this thirst of knowledge before they even enter school. Here
are some key steps in preparing your child to be a stellar student:

1. Fill your home with reading. Read to your child daily. Fill
your home with reading material such as novels, newspapers, and
educational magazines. A child is influenced by their surroundings.
When a son or daughter sees a parent reading at a young age, it makes
an impression. As parents, we can foster that with a love for learning.
Parents are the most important modeling agent in a child's life.

2. Encourage your child to explore his or her interests. If you
have a son who loves animals, offer him some educational books about
animals. If he's young, allow him to explore the world Of the National
Geographic Magazines. You could also direct him to some websites that
explore animal facts. You're enthusiasm over your child is motivation
in itself.

3. Provide play opportunities that offer different types of
learning styles. Play is one of the most powerful vehicles through
which children master new skill, concepts, and experiences. This will
help them solve the challenges they meet in school. Through the use of
blocks, your child will develop his or her creative expression and
problem solving skills. A cash register would help them recreate their
own experiences. However, boxes of various sizes can be great toys that
encourage your child to be creative in his or her creations.


4. When your child starts school, make sure that they are organized. An organized folder lends To an organized mind.

5. Celebrate achievements. Reward your child for large and small
achievements, whether it's finishing a book or completing a major
assignment in school. Positive reinforcement encourages a child to
continue to challenge themselves.

6. Use everyday event as learning opportunities.Encourage your
child to explore his/her world. Continually ask questions and make
connections that build upon their existing knowledge. The brain learns
through associations.


As a central role model, moms and dads have the responsibility to create an environment that fosters a love for learning.



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What Julia Roberts Has to Say about Motherhood




By: GranMamma


Julia Roberts recently gave birth to twins: Hazel and Phinnaeus. At 37,
America’s Pretty Woman couldn’t be happier in her new role of
motherhood.

The twins were delivered at a hospital in Southern California.
Since the twin’s birth Julia has done voice-over work for the remake of
E.B. White’s “Charlotte’s Web”. She is also set to work on a film for
children called “Ant Bully”.

Roberts has often told reporters that she’d like nine children.
She claimed that pregnancy was a breeze and she certainly hasn’t lost
her trademark smile. Julia seems to enjoy all of life’s experiences.
Motherhood simply brought highlights.

Roberts says she only has one complaint: huge breasts. Julia
told a reporter for the ‘The Oprah Winfrey Show’: “It’s no laughing
matter. This is the only dress brave enough to hold in my breast line.”
However, Julia has kept a striking figure, which she gives the credit
to Pilates.

What is motherhood? Is it rocking your baby to sleep at night?
Is it helping them tie their shoes? Is it introducing them to a new
world? What happens when we go from womanhood to motherhood? Mothers
are often encouraged to make time for themselves. However, mothers are
among the few who know what happens when you make time for others. It
is certainly a role that Julia Roberts plans on holding 365 days a
year.





GranMamma is the webmaster at the Baby Names Box
- Where you can explore over 6,000 baby names and their meanings.
Sub-categories include Disney ,J.R. Tolkien names, Fantasy and Folklore
names, and many names from the literary classics. Be sure to say hi to
GranMamma!

How to Help Your Children Blossom



By: Pat Downing


I am writing this from the beautiful mountains of Western North Carolina in the southeastern region of the United States.

It
is gorgeous here in April, with trees covered in white or pink
blossoms, masses of yellow forsythia in bloom and flowers of many
colors bursting forth in gardens and along the roadsides.

It takes my breath away.

As I allow myself to soak up the beauty all around me, I think about the experience of being a parent. I can’t help it.

Here are some of the messages Spring is whispering to me this year:

1. Allow everything to happen in its own time.

I
remember how, in January, we were longing for Spring to come. Looking
at the bare trees, I could imagine the blossoms of April and silently
urged Spring to hurry.

But the time was not right.

It’s
like raising children. There is an inner rhythm, a natural unfolding
that cannot be hurried. We can’t force the blossoming.

My grand-daughter just took her first steps. She is 13 months old.

For
the last few months, she has been standing and walking around the
furniture. The adults in her life have been encouraging her to take
those un-supported steps.

She was not ready.

Some things cannot be hurried.

In
fact, when we hurry our children, it often slows them down. They become
anxious and unsure of themselves, and disconnect from their own inner
wisdom.

Is there something that you want your child to do or to become that seems to be taking a long time?

Are you impatient?

This may be the time for you to allow the natural process to unfold in its own time.

Trust the knowing within your child. The same inner guidance that we all have within us is within our children as well.

Allow them to bloom in their own way, in their own time.

2. Appreciate each day for the gifts it brings.

The magnificent beauty of Spring is so fleeting.

Last week, I was enjoying the delicate pink flowers of our weeping cherry tree, branches bending gently toward the earth.

I wanted to stop time and hold on to the beauty of it all, but I knew I couldn’t.

So
I took the time to sit and watch the branches dancing gently in the
wind. I soaked in as much of the beauty as I could and felt an
overwhelming gratitude to be a part of that magic moment.

Now the blossoms have been replaced by tiny green leaves. The moment of magnificence has passed. Too quickly.

Today
I have a choice. I can regret the loss of the blossoms. Or I can
appreciate the beauty that is before me now. Flowers gave way to
leaves, but the tree is still beautiful.

When my children were teenagers, our relationships went through phases.

Some
times were magnificent, like a tree in full bloom. We just seemed to
click, and my heart overflowed with love and gratitude.

Other days, we had difficult issues to work through, or they seemed withdrawn. I felt very disconnected from them.

It was easy to remember the way they were before, and that left me with a feeling of loss.

I had a choice. I could regret what I had in the moment - or I could find a way to shift my own emotional energy.

I did that by looking for things to appreciate. It worked every time. It took me from disappointment to gratitude.

In what ways do your children blossom?

Do you take the time to be with them and share those moments with them?

What
happens when the moment has passed? Can you appreciate your children
even on ordinary days, when nothing special is bursting forth - or even
when they are out of sorts and taking it out on you?

Can you look past all of that?

Can you see the beauty that is before you today?

Look at your children. Look until you see something that you appreciate.

Take
a few minutes to feel your gratitude for the gift that they bring to
your life right now. No comparisons with other children. No longing for
a different time when things seemed better between you.

Just appreciate the child who is before you today.

3. Plant the seeds and tend the garden:

All around us, tulips and daffodils are springing up in a bright profusion of color.

Some yards are like vibrant paintings. Other yards are like blank canvases. Nothing is blooming.

What does that tell me?

If we want our children to blossom, we need to learn the lessons of the garden.

Flowers
do not appear magically. Someone planted the seeds or the bulbs, and
the sun and rain work together to draw the plants out of their winter
hibernation.

So it is with our children.

What words do you say to your children? How do act when you are with them? These are the seeds that you plant.

What is the emotional atmosphere like in your home? This is the soil in which the seeds will either grow or whither.

Is it warm and life-affirming?

Is it inviting and welcoming, so your children feel, not only safe, but encouraged to express themselves?

If so, then they will blossom before your eyes.

Pat and Larry Downing

have many years of experience counseling teenagers and their parents,
conducting family mediations and leading workshops and support groups.
They are co-authors of the e-Book, "Feel Good Parenting: How to Use the Power of Your Heart to Create an Extraordinary Relationship with Your Child."

For more information on how to create relationships that are peaceful, harmonious, cooperative and joyful, you may go to go to http://www.feelgoodparenting.com/ to sign up for a free e-Course and a free e-zine for parents.

Copyright © 2005 by Patricia Downing